Recently, I decided to focus on nurturing connections and relationships. And once decided, I began to see the shimmering connections between people. Sometimes they already existed; other times I attached them:
- Two dads who love surfing and working with their hands
- Two teenagers in the same performing arts program commuting separately for hours each day
- Three young adults who love to draw
These threads are everywhere. They’re magical. We just have to look.
These connections challenge us to discover their reason for being. They can also unite us in a network that makes each of us stronger.
Have you ever noticed that the people who come to an activity or a gathering may be few or unexpected, but they are the ones who needed to be there, together, at that time? A programmer and a tae kwon do black belt learn they both have recently taken up the violin. Two women needing hiking buddies meet at their kids’ judo class.
The universe works in mysterious ways.
This kind of magic is accessible to us all. What if we intentionally sought out how our puzzle pieces of existence fit together? Why are we in each other’s lives?
Sometimes we don’t want these connections, and they can be difficult to sever. Discovering the purpose of a harmful connection can make it easier to let go. Consider:
- Why is this person in my life?
- What can I learn from this relationship?
- Why should I allow her to define me?
You, me, we are here together for a reason. Make it a good one.
Think about the worst boss you’ve ever had. Set the negative emotions aside. I challenge you to discover a positive outcome of that relationship. You may be surprised.